How to deal with crying kid?

Kid crying has always been a problem that causes numbness and headaches. At different ages, the coping methods are different. Today, I will mainly talk about the coping methods for older children when they are crying:

Older children have no problems communicating and expressing. When crying, you need to look at the specific scene:

If you are frustrated, ask about the specific situation, then analyze and appease it, and give encouragement and encouragement if necessary.

Children occasionally have emotional recurrences, degenerative crying, appropriate hugs and pets, and then say that the baby just lost his temper... Just now... Describe the phenomenon and things, the kid will understand.

Appropriate emotional satisfaction of this kind is very important for the child’s future. Childhood builds up a sense of security for the child. When he grows up, he can avoid the "I scold you not to let you go, you just need to hug me." The situation in the couple's room.

I’m crying because I lose my temper, and I even lie on the ground and roll around. I have to buy something. It is recommended to deal with it cold and turn on the repeater mode. It’s not good, no, no; to avoid being kidnapped by children to do something...

Satisfying a child's crying will spoil him?

Many mothers have the inference that what I did once, he will continue to do so in the future. For example, if she cried and I satisfied him, he would definitely use crying to blackmail me in the future. Or he didn't listen to me this time, it's terrible, will he get worse in the future and always don't listen to me.

My mother will think about the consequences as serious and will continue to escalate. In fact, it is not that serious. At the age of 1 year and 7 months, sometimes crying can be used to divert attention, but with the development of cognitive development and memory, the technique of diverting attention will become more and more ineffective.

Children less than 1 year old are satisfied if they can, such as eating and drinking. Do not deliberately grind your child's temperament, because the child is still establishing an attachment relationship with his parents when he is less than one year old, and he needs stable and regular care from his parents, which will directly affect the child's later adulthood.

Of course, if the child is more than 8 months old, sometimes he can slowly learn to wait. For example, if he wants to drink milk, the heat is good, but it won’t cool down for a while, and the child wants to yell, what should I do? You can let him touch the hot cup with his hand and tell him it is hot. Or you can count while waiting and blowing. Blow and count, some kids like it very much. So everyone can make them learn to wait according to what they like to do and think of ways, but don’t just let him wait, but play a game while waiting or have a way to distract them, so as to make their waiting easier. .

When children want to do something on their own, they can actually be encouraged. Only by trying can he know where the limits of his abilities are, what I can do, and what I can’t do. Give him some chances, let him try, if he can't, he will naturally turn to you for help. Of course, except for touching the switch.

Can't listen to adults at all when crying?

When a child is crying, the rational part of his brain stops working. So, what you see: When a child is crying, it is like blocking the parent's words. In fact, it is indeed blocked.

Some mothers will say that when the child is crying, I will tell him, stop crying, and say it well to meet his requirements. But he continued to cry, repeating it again and again, it still didn't stop. That's it, his brain can no longer think rationally when he is crying, so your request is of no use.

How to do it? You have to find a way to calm him down through empathy, but pay attention to empathy. In fact, it means to tell his true thoughts or feelings. Either by helping him solve the problem or suggesting how to solve it, if he is interested in the solution, he can also calm down. Only when he calms down will he listen to you.

Beating children can't solve the problem at all. If you think you are leaving him alone, the child may feel neglected because you did not help him. I think parents can relax and let themselves see the problem from the perspective of the child. If you can't meet a child's needs, can you think of alternatives, or can you use games, or can you let him come up with his own ideas? In short, don't be tit-for-tat with your child. The more you are tit-for-tat, the more stubborn the child will be.

Robbing other people's toys and crying whenever you blame?

Some children see other children playing with toys, and will grab them when they see others playing, and cry when they blame him. What should I do? When the child is young, he will play whatever other children play. This is normal. At this stage, his companionship is characterized by parallel games. When he sees what others are playing, he will also want to play similar toys, and he will not cooperate with others to play together. Sometimes it’s normal to snatch a toy from someone else, because his language skills are not very good, and he is more self-centered at this age. When he sees a toy, he has this toy in his eyes, thinking that he wants to play with it. So involuntarily took it. To be a mother, you must first understand the characteristics and psychology of the child during this period.

Blaming him, or hitting the child, these are not good ways to help. You need to teach in advance, for example, if you want other people's toys, what should you do? You can speak with your mouth first, ask others to play for you, or you can exchange, or take turns, as you said. Then when you encounter a similar situation, you stop him first and let him think for himself, what should we do in this situation? Slowly he remembered. At this age, his self-control ability is not very good, so we need to keep reminding. Remind a lot, and you will gradually form a habit.

Mom also has a bad mood...

The specific situation of crying depends on the specific situation, and also depends on the status of the parents. When my mother is in a bad mood, she can’t help but consider her mother’s feelings.

Good mood, reason, answer...

If you are in a bad mood, tell the child that I am not happy now, you go to another room first...

Beat the child? not recommend! Because children will learn... Not social...

The best way is to use your words. Express your sadness, or cry when you are really sad. The mother hugs the baby to comfort and comfort, just listen to him.